I knew what I wanted.  I was very clear and direct with my prayer. “God, I’m ready to start dating to find my wife.”  While this prayer might not seem like big deal to someone else, it was HUGE for me. At that point in my life, I was trying to dig myself out of a hole. I was struggling with credit card debt and at the beginning of what would be a 140 pound weightloss journey.  I was also in transition, as I had to make one of the hardest decisions in my life – to move out of my two-bedroom bachelor pad andRead More →

When I was single, I had a season of isolation where I worked on myself. As a married man, I am bearing the fruit of the time I spent addressing my personal issues. I addressed my issue of low self-esteem, sought wisdom and understanding of my purpose in life, recognized my value and what I had to offer someone else, worked on being able to recognize when I was being “crazy”…lbvs, and really allowed God to show me true myself. During that season, I wanted to grow and mature. Because marriage was always the end goal for me, I dedicated time to healing from past hurtsRead More →

My wife and I have been more married for two and a half years. The other day, one of mom’s friends said, “I love the way you and your wife interact. You guys really get along and it’s clear that you respect each other.” I smiled and agreed with her, noting that I was blessed to have a very patient wife who I highly value and cherish. But it got me to thinking…why isn’t this the norm? Why do we live in generation where broken, dysfunctional relationships are the norm? Why is there confusion about what being in a relationship entails and how to effectivelyRead More →

I’ve been meaning to share this post since November 22, 2015 (our first year anniversary), but with a new baby, work, ministry, more work and just my desire to fully share these thoughts regarding the first year of marriage, I just finished the blog.  I understand that everyone’s first year of marriage is different, but I thank God that ours was AMAZING, and I give all the honor and glory to Him because it could have been different, BUT GOD! 1. God has to be at the center of your marriage. There is no way around it and you shouldn’t want to have it any other way. PrayingRead More →

Where is the love? 1st Corithians 13:4-8 clearly explains what LOVE is: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” Based on my reading of that scripture, it is clear to me that love is an action word.  Love requires you to demonstrate by your actions how you feel.  If you really love something or someone,Read More →