My wife and I decided that we wanted to do a blog about healthy relationships, marriage, family and the importance of living a God-centered life. Now, although we do not proclaim to be “experts” in this area, God has specifically blessed us with wisdom, knowledge, and understanding about relationships that we believe will be a blessing to someone else. And I, being the husband and head of our household, decided to write the first introductory blog. (I think that’s okay, right babe? #HappyWifeHappyLife)
As of today, my wife and I have been married for 9 months and 5 days, and I can honestly say everyday gets sweeter than the day before. Prior to getting married, people gave us advice and kind of warned us about “the first year of marriage” transition. We heard things like…”keep people outside of your marriage”, “it’s hard meshing lives and getting your schedules coordinated, so expect it to be bumpy initially”, “it’s hard”, “communication is the key”, “it takes time to get on one accord”, “have separate bank accounts because someone will be the spender and the other one will be upset”. We heard it all. We took everything in and decided, together, that we were going to protect what God has blessed us with and do it God’s way. We vowed that we would keep God at the center of our marriage. We prioritize God as our savior and understand, together, that without God, it just wouldn’t work.
And just so that you understand more about us, we plan to be very transparent on this blog about our courtship, our marriage and how God continues to move in our life on a daily basis. In 2013, I told God that I was ready to start dating again to find my wife. At that point in my life, I had no prospects or anything but I knew that I was in the season of preparation for my mate. I prayed and asked God who should I ask out on a date, and my beautiful queen, Sondra, popped in my head. I had no idea exactly why she popped in my head nor did I remember exactly how I had her phone number in my phone already, but I knew it was God. After I reached out to her and we went on an amazing date, I got a little scared and didn’t call her for 6 months. Crazy…I know, but I was in a period of transition and because I knew I couldn’t fully give myself to Sondra at the time I took her out, I pumped the brakes and finished refining, learning and understanding who I was as man, and what I wanted out of relationship.
When I finally felt ready, and after some Facebook research and flirting, we went out on a second date in November 2013. After the second date, we have been tied to the hip since. We started the courting process and 3.5 months later, I asked her father, could I marry his only daughter. After getting his permission, a month later, on April 12, 2014, I proposed to her in front of our family and friends at a surprise engagement party that I planned. In July 2014, we purchased our home and on November 22, 2014, my life changed forever. Ms. Sondra Patterson became Mrs. Sondra Taylor and I officially assumed the role of her covering. In just 12 months, God did a new thing and birthed #TeamTaylor. If I wasn’t truly submitted to God, this could have been a difficult transition. But when you let God take the wheel, you can go from living in your grandmother’s backroom and in terrible consumer debt, to owning your own home and setting up a kingdom for you and your wife to reign.
Oh, another interesting thing about my wife and I, besides our speedy courtship, is that we were both 29 year old virgins when we got married, which was nothing but the grace of God and His keeping power! It was amazing for us to experience that level of intimacy with each other for the first time. If you are reading this and you are still a virgin, hold on! Wait! I promise you it will be worth it. And, as of today, we are 36 weeks pregnant and will have an addition to #TeamTaylor coming in September – Zara Rose Taylor aka Daddy’s Little Princess. 39 weeks ago we were virgins and we are now 36 weeks pregnant…WOW…we didn’t waste any time.
Over the past 9 months, I have really learned the importance of my role as a husband, friend, comforter, prayer partner, and confidant to my wife. I understand that if I fail to communicate or if I fail to act in way which makes my wife secure and gives her a reason to trust my decisions, that marriage can be very hard sometimes. I’ve learned that I am responsible for anything that is going on in my house and that I have to assume the leadership role at all times. I’ve also learned how to listen to my wife. You can’t assess someone’s need if you do not listen to them and hear their heart. In addition, I’ve learned that my wife needs to hear my concerns because at the end of day, we are still learning each other. Some stuff that you feel like, “I just shouldn’t have to say that”…guess what…you just do.
All in all, this blog is going to be a platform for us to demonstrate the love of God through our marriage. Welcome to the Wonderful World of #Taylorville, where sacrificial love is practiced on a daily basis and each day we set out to love on God better than we did the day before.